Once there was a man who lived his life doing everything just right, the people knowing him would give examples of his morality and everyone used to look upon him. One day he fell ill and his health kept deteriorating. On the verge of his existence, he realized that he lived a life that was righteous for everyone else than himself. He spent his lifetime mastering and doing what people perceived to be right but he never reflected upon what was right for him and whether he did a bit of it. The message from this story is not unique to us; we spend a lifetime trying to figure what is wrong and what is just right.
This conflict of right and wrong begins from our childhood. Our morals are shaped as per the environment, family and institutions we grow with. Although we all distinguish between right and wrong we never agree with each other on what is right and what is wrong. There is no objective existence of right decisions and actions; it is all based on our individual upbringings, cultures, emotions and ever evolving beliefs. What may be morally right for us may not be right for someone else, yet we invest a lot of our thoughts trying to fit our actions into the frame of righteousness. But how do labeling decisions and actions under the category of right or wrong help us? Logically in no way. So, why do we even need to feel right?
A just right act or a decision is the one that gives us a moment to cherish for lifetime. It is the moment that is attached with our emotions of happiness, self-achievement, fulfilment and eventually the worth of being ourselves. No act that fills us with pain or suffering can be right. The just right cannot be realized by holding things in the fist. In fact the just right decision is the one that we admire.
By labeling things to be right or wrong, we only compartmentalize with no output. We welcome a lot of stress in our lives from our attempts to act right to the challenges encountered. We fail in accepting the flow of life and keep overanalyzing and over thinking about things that have nothing to do with our happiness. And, in this process we miss out on the charm of what is called as the ‘Just Right’ moment that is lived once yet cherished throughout.
I believe there is no right or wrong path in Life, there are paths either to happiness or to approvals, perceptions and judgments.
–God Bless you
Mr. Roni Abraham